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I've recently become a brony, and I just feel... Ashamed to like a show about pink and purple ponies... Is this a phase most bronies go through or am I just an odd one out?

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Huh, don't think I've ever heard of an MLP fan being ashamed of liking cartoon horses before. Seems like you are the only one, you might want to consult a doctor about that.

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In the grand scheme of things, liking a show about pastel colored equines doing silly things isn't any worse then liking anything else. Who is to say it is worse or even better then a show about a bunch of Japanese school girls, billionaire rednecks, whatever the Kardashians are doing, a washed up comedian providing commentary on Youtube, or any of the 12 billion sitcoms? People have preferences and should be free to enjoy whatever kind of entertainment (unless it harms another living being) they so desire without coming under scrutiny since about 99% of the time, it won't effect the relationship between them and other people. Its sorta the same thing with the whole gay marriage debacle, people should be able to like/marry whoever they want without the government intervening.

 

Does being a brony make you weird? Possibly. Is it bad to be weird? Fuck no. You have to remember terms such as 'weird' and 'normal' are relative and mostly everyone isn't weird but aspire to be normal which I think is pretty ludicrous to conform to society standards and shut out what makes us human.

 

tl;dr: People will think you're weird thus causing you to feel ashamed for being more unique then others.

 

Edit: If theres anything being a brony taught me, its tolerance.

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I can't say I'm ashamed to be a brony, but I don't flaunt it, either.  The exception of course is the internet, where I toss my bronydom all over the place because either no one gives a fuck or it's just fun to watch people flip their shits whenever they see a pastel-colored pony.  IRL, however, the only people who know I'm a brony are my parents, and even then they know very little.  I never really "came out" to my parents in a conventional way.  Instead, I made a casual remark about how "it was a good show" when we were talking about the internet and my dad brought up bronies.

 

It's all about how you choose to express your fandom.  No one is obligating you to go to conventions or buy merchandise, and I certainly don't want to shove my fandom down everyone's throats.

 

Finally, the best way to get over your shame is to think of why you are in the fandom.  Think about if a hater were to come up to you (as many have done to me) and ask you why you like a show about ponies; how would you defend yourself?  I personally enjoy the show and the fandom is one of the most supportive communities I have ever seen.  This isn't just some phase I'm going through, and just because I'm different doesn't mean I'm mentally deficient.

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Speaking from a non brony perspective, i don't feel there's much of a reason to be ashamed. generally yes many bronies feel ashamed at first because "hurr durr girly colory show for little gurls conflicting with stereotyped media hyped idealism of being male"  

 

yeah i watched the show back in season 1/season 2, yeah i called myself a brony back then, and yeah i was also ashamed. but i was also much more insecure and worried about how people react about such a thing. i grew out of that because its honestly pretty silly. You like what you like and so long as you're not breaking any laws with your likes i'm pretty sure you don't gotta listen to nobody if they say you liking that is wrong. or just being a bigot and saying "you brony faggot, stop spreading your cancer and kill yourself."

 

Long story short don't feel ashamed about it but don't go flaunting it either.

 

You have to remember terms such as 'weird' and 'normal' are relative and mostly everyone isn't weird but aspire to be normal which I think is pretty ludicrous to conform to society standards and shut out what makes us human.

when it comes to things like "weird" and "normal" personally i think weird is subjective, but normal is a completely dumb concept when it comes to the intricacies of the human and its vast variety of personalities. basically everyone is weird to someone but no one is normal to everyone. i think that's really what makes us human is the ability to be unique individuals from one another. that of course include the ability to like/do things that are different from society's standards of "normal"

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As someone who slowly phased out of watching the show, as well as watching some spots of it via the return of Derpy (practically the reason of how I got into the fandom in the first place) and the occasional season finale viewings.  In short, I just let it something like how I treated other stuff that I happen to encounter in the mass media: just let it absorb it to me and just move on living life.

 

But I also should be thankful to as well that thanks to the show, it brought me out of the brooding and dark realm of the console gaming world, and it led me to discover new friends that I found here in the community.  Sure there may have been times of which the group that I hang out with may get into quarrels here and there, but then we all just learned to adapt to it and understand as to where each of us comes from.  As long as we play some vidya and have a good laugh at it, then all will be well.  That is until I hear some bickering and bitching all because a particular move in a certain game led to some unfortunate outcome, but I'm pretty sure that can apply to almost any other game.

 

But yeah just what the others above are saying: don't gloat about what you like too much or that "weirdness" will backfire on you.

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I was never a brony to begin with, but it did make me be interested in the ponyville community, which I am glad I've done so. So yeah, there's no shame into liking something that you grew interested to.

 

Even when you suddenly decide to make SFM pony videos with your twisted imagination.

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Well, I'm not ashamed of it, but it's not like I'll go and shout to the world 'I'm a brony!', only a few people IRL life know that I'm a brony (some friends, parents and brother) but beeing a brony is not something bad, to be ashamed of, it's not like you're hurting somebody.

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To be honest. I was when I first became a Brony.

 

As some of you know, I was a hater before I watched it. And Until my Girlfriend got me to finally watch and episode with her I even hated the idea of doing that. But I quickly found out how awesome MLP is!

 

So yes, but don't let the shame count for anything. We're all family here. Anything you feel I can say some of us have but wont admit it.

 

I can only give you advice here, DON'T let that feeling over-shadow what you like. If you like the show, then forget about the shame and #YoloSwagHashtagNoShame It's not worth giving up on an amazing fandom because society makes us feel like outcasts because of it.

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When I became a brony, I wasn't ashamed. I was taught by my mother never to be ashamed of who I am or what I like. I also never judge people; everyone is the same in my eyes, and have the same potential.

 

I work at Target, and everyone knows I'm a brony, and they're okay with that. They know that I'm a cool person and that I'm not some judgemental douche. I think it's always about what's on the inside that counts, and if you're ashamed to be a brony, always ask yourself: "Why is it weird?"

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I'd just like to say that people put the amount of emphasis of their fandom of MLP is ridiculous. People treat it like a lifestyle, like being a "brony" is the same as being Gay in the American south. Or like being a transgendered person. Can you imagine if someone was like "Guys, I... uh... likeGameofThrones!!"

 

It. Is. A. TV Show.

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I'd just like to say that people put the amount of emphasis of their fandom of MLP is ridiculous. People treat it like a lifestyle, like being a "brony" is the same as being Gay in the American south. Or like being a transgendered person. Can you imagine if someone was like "Guys, I... uh... likeGameofThrones!!"

 

It. Is. A. TV Show.

 

I know you how you feel...

 

Two years ago, back when I was still a hater, there was a guy in my english class who was one of those kinds of people.  Once a week, he wore his Fluttershy fan shirt; his binder was covered in pictures of Fluttershy; he had a Fluttershy doll on a keychain on his backpack.  One time, he even came to school with Fluttershy's cutie mark painted on his cheek.  His worst moment though, was when our teacher was putting together a motivational playlist of youtube movies to see us off (we were seniors), and that little bastard convinced him to put a PMV in there...

 

While you still shouldn't be ashamed to be a brony, you're not helping anyone by shoving your fandom down everyone's throats.  If anything, you're just cementing the stereotype that the fandom is obnoxious and cancerous.

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I'd just like to say that people put the amount of emphasis of their fandom of MLP is ridiculous. People treat it like a lifestyle, like being a "brony" is the same as being Gay in the American south. Or like being a transgendered person. Can you imagine if someone was like "Guys, I... uh... likeGameofThrones!!"

 

It. Is. A. TV Show.

 

I know you how you feel...

 

Two years ago, back when I was still a hater, there was a guy in my english class who was one of those kinds of people.  Once a week, he wore his Fluttershy fan shirt; his binder was covered in pictures of Fluttershy; he had a Fluttershy doll on a keychain on his backpack.  One time, he even came to school with Fluttershy's cutie mark painted on his cheek.  His worst moment though, was when our teacher was putting together a motivational playlist of youtube movies to see us off (we were seniors), and that little bastard convinced him to put a PMV in there...

 

While you still shouldn't be ashamed to be a brony, you're not helping anyone by shoving your fandom down everyone's throats.  If anything, you're just cementing the stereotype that the fandom is obnoxious and cancerous.

 

 

The same goes for everything else, regardless of what it is.

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It's a show like anything else is. If people can like shows about magical anime women then they can like magical ponies.

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I'd just like to say that people put the amount of emphasis of their fandom of MLP is ridiculous. People treat it like a lifestyle, like being a "brony" is the same as being Gay in the American south. Or like being a transgendered person. Can you imagine if someone was like "Guys, I... uh... likeGameofThrones!!"

 

It. Is. A. TV Show.

 

I know you how you feel...

 

Two years ago, back when I was still a hater, there was a guy in my english class who was one of those kinds of people.  Once a week, he wore his Fluttershy fan shirt; his binder was covered in pictures of Fluttershy; he had a Fluttershy doll on a keychain on his backpack.  One time, he even came to school with Fluttershy's cutie mark painted on his cheek.  His worst moment though, was when our teacher was putting together a motivational playlist of youtube movies to see us off (we were seniors), and that little bastard convinced him to put a PMV in there...

 

While you still shouldn't be ashamed to be a brony, you're not helping anyone by shoving your fandom down everyone's throats.  If anything, you're just cementing the stereotype that the fandom is obnoxious and cancerous.

 

 

The same goes for everything else, regardless of what it is.

 

 

oddly, I find that most people honestly don't care much about so-called "shoving," they just ignore it. it's only the people who are ashamed of something that make a big deal about others being "obnoxious and cancerous"

 

woodle's post is a strawman argument. there's a bit of a difference when something changes from "just a show" to become a community or even a sub-culture, at which point I ask why is it ridiculous to think that a community/culture could be part of one's identity? they adopt it as a "lifestyle" (whatever that means) because they form a community with each other, not because they just coincidentally turn on the TV to watch it every week.

 

still, funny how he brings up gays and transgenders as an argument when kids have also been bullied to the point of suicide for liking cartoon ponies....

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I had a friend who immersed himself greatly into drug culture. Was I supposed to just ignore him too? Someone I've known for years whose entire life becomes dominated by what he's on, what he's going to be on, and what he was on, and refuses to listen to any dissenting voices. I could just ignore him too right? He was absolutely shoving drivel about how "[he] trust[ed] people who [did] drugs more than those who don't because they like, discovered themselves", but no, I was probably just ashamed of my drug habits, wasn't I?

 

I do see people who wear pony T-shirts. Hell, I saw 3 people in full cosplay downtown. They aren't hurting anyone, and they aren't actively bothering anyone. I didn't engage them, they paid no notice of me. That's how these things work. But is it obnoxious to be in a full spike fursuit in the middle of a city? It sure is. There is a time and a place for everything, and that was not it. Same goes for Hazard Time's example. The keychain and PMV and face temp-tattoo probably didn't ever hurt anyone directly. I doubt anyone has PTSD from a negative fluttershy experience. But it's completely inappropriate. People can ignore those like him, but it doesn't stop it from being annoying. 

 

When someone micspams in TF2, I could just ignore it, continue playing. But I also have the option to mute it, and option that for me, effectively eliminates the micspam altogether. I have an out to not be annoyed. If, hypothetically, someone began loudly preaching on a bus (about anything really), my out is to get off the bus, but that's not always a good idea because my commute is a tad on the long side. I could ignore him, but that doesn't make him go away.

 

Also, Gays and Transgender individuals are treated like crap globally, and have been persecuted for years and years.Teens and Pre-teens and whatever young people have and will always bully each other. To say that a fandom is on the level of LGBT, or to even suggest that "persecution" of pony fans is anywhere near how poorly LGBT individuals are treated is to be incredibly egotistical. Yes perhaps "bronys" have been bullied to the point of suicide. People have also been bullied relentlessly for their race. Is pony fandom that as well? A race of people?

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I don't feel anyone should be ashamed, though it's understandable why you are. Not in relation of what you enjoy is not what I mean, but as in how others view you.

I'm female and Hell, I'm still scared to talk about ponies and such to my parents.

I fear my parents will view me as immature just because I enjoy watching a show of what I believe is adorable.

Whoops, sorry, getting kinda derailed.

 

Anyways, nothing wrong being a brony, as long as you're not harming anyone. Same with clopping, as long as you're not ACTUALLY harming an animal and/or human, you're fine. Just don't be creepy. 

 

Also, please, whatever you do, don't deny watching the show makes you feminine. There's no shame in having feminine and masculine traits/interests. Saying you're ashamed of having a and/or many feminine traits/interests does make you sexist. That is all.

 

(EDIT 1: Misspelled some words, oops!)

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Watching the show doesn't make you feminine any more than watching horror films makes you a sociopath.

 

If it's there, it's there.  I f you didn't notice a feminine side to your personality until after watching the show, either you aren't that introspective or you just haven't had a chance to express it in a healthy way before.

 

You shouldn't be ashamed for watching any t.v show

 

 

...outside of trashy reality shows, reality game show (survivor), pretty much anything live-action on Cartoon Network, Disney, or Nick ( seriously, how many shows do we need about twelve-year-olds saving the world/city/concert?), anything on MTV, weird-ass anime that makes no sense (bleach and co.)(because I'm not going back to re-watch the first two seasons just to make some damn sense of whatever-the-hell I'm looking at right now), less-weird anime that's just lame (harem that isn't Ranma), ok most anime, some of that bullshit they put on Cartoon Network really late at night for the stoners (pretty much anything between Robot Chicken and the 4am replay of Family Guy), never-was 'comedians' showing you everything you just watched on youtube last week (that's right Tosh, Rob Dydreck stole your show and is better at it)(yes I know that violates the MTV rule, but it is better),  sitcoms about the lifestyle that absolutely no one has, anything with the word 'Celebrity' in the title, a bunch of shit I can't think of right now, and sporting events (if you have a favorite team and wear their jersey while watching the game and shouting like a lunatic than fuck off you conformist prick)

 

 

 

...and porn, porn, porn, porn, and hentai. I really don't care if you watch, but keep that shit to yourself, and I'll do the same.

 

 

What you should be ashamed about is if your level of outward enthusiasm and obsession (let's call that exofandom) is distracting or annoying to those around you that don't share in the same level of exofandom (there, I used it) making you come off like some asshat that no one wants to be around.

 

Seriously. Take that shit down a notch. And you know who you are.

 

T-shirts are fine. as are hats, and other creative tweaks to a mundane outfit. Talk about the show around others that like it. Mention it briefly to those that might.

 

But don't run around the mall in a Rainbow Dash fursuit screaming out the lyrics to Winter Wrap-up. Don't show up at local pizza place with toys and try to make them draw Fluttershy on your box. Seriously, you look like a dick. You're far more likely to turn people of the of the show that way, as well as generate negativity to the more balanced fans in your area, or everywhere if you're filming your bad behavior for youtube. That's what you should be ashamed of.

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Watching the show doesn't make you feminine any more than watching horror films makes you a sociopath.

 

If it's there, it's there.  I f you didn't notice a feminine side to your personality until after watching the show, either you aren't that introspective or you just haven't had a chance to express it in a healthy way before.

 

You shouldn't be ashamed for watching any t.v show

 

 

...outside of trashy reality shows, reality game show (survivor), pretty much anything live-action on Cartoon Network, Disney, or Nick ( seriously, how many shows do we need about twelve-year-olds saving the world/city/concert?), anything on MTV, weird-ass anime that makes no sense (bleach and co.)(because I'm not going back to re-watch the first two seasons just to make some damn sense of whatever-the-hell I'm looking at right now), less-weird anime that's just lame (harem that isn't Ranma), ok most anime, some of that bullshit they put on Cartoon Network really late at night for the stoners (pretty much anything between Robot Chicken and the 4am replay of Family Guy), never-was 'comedians' showing you everything you just watched on youtube last week (that's right Tosh, Rob Dydreck stole your show and is better at it)(yes I know that violates the MTV rule, but it is better),  sitcoms about the lifestyle that absolutely no one has, anything with the word 'Celebrity' in the title, a bunch of shit I can't think of right now, and sporting events (if you have a favorite team and wear their jersey while watching the game and shouting like a lunatic than fuck off you conformist prick)

 

 

 

...and porn, porn, porn, porn, and hentai. I really don't care if you watch, but keep that shit to yourself, and I'll do the same.

 

 

What you should be ashamed about is if your level of outward enthusiasm and obsession (let's call that exofandom) is distracting or annoying to those around you that don't share in the same level of exofandom (there, I used it) making you come off like some asshat that no one wants to be around.

 

Seriously. Take that shit down a notch. And you know who you are.

 

T-shirts are fine. as are hats, and other creative tweaks to a mundane outfit. Talk about the show around others that like it. Mention it briefly to those that might.

 

But don't run around the mall in a Rainbow Dash fursuit screaming out the lyrics to Winter Wrap-up. Don't show up at local pizza place with toys and try to make them draw Fluttershy on your box. Seriously, you look like a dick. You're far more likely to turn people of the of the show that way, as well as generate negativity to the more balanced fans in your area, or everywhere if you're filming your bad behavior for youtube. That's what you should be ashamed of.

I'm sorry, but if you're going to sit there and tell me a show which is originally targeted for a younger female audience isn't feminine, you're so wrong it's not even funny.

 

I don't know why bronies make it sound bad to be feminine. You're not automatically homosexual, and even if you were to be, there's nothing wrong with being gay. God, you guys take it as an insult. What's wrong being feminine? What's wrong with having a little bit of a sensitive side? 

 

Also you're comparing to become a sociopath to being/having feminine traits/interests. I can see if you're comparing people who watch the show to be gay compared to watching a horror movie/films making you a sociopath, but being/having feminine traits/interests has no strong relation towards that. I watch and play movies/video games which contain gore and violence, which is considered masculine. I'm fine with having masculine interests/traits, I just wish I wasn't shamed for having them.

 

Now, my main and probably my only issue is how society over-thinks and over-views people in certain perspectives. Example: If a man cries, he's a faggot. If a woman does, she needs help and assistance. If a woman plays video games, she's stereotypically a hot chick and wants to have sex with anyone who she encounters who are male. When a man plays video games, he's either viewed as your everyday CoD player, or he's obese and has no life.

 

At least it's good to see you obviously agree that it's healthy to have a feminine side and/or to express it. No harm in being feminine and/or masculine.

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If you feel shame, then you're not a real brony yet. Embrace the pink. Embrace the love and happiness. You will soon reach brony enlightnment.

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When it comes to opinions, everyone has one, there is a popular one, one by the masses, and personal opinions.

If your opinion is what makes you happy, why would you care or be bothered by others that make you feel bad or wrong?

 

In this new day and age where we have the freedom to express yourself, but we are still constricted by what we ourselves fear, the fear of being a social outcast, the fear that someone we like or care for disapprove of our choices, the fear of not fitting in in a group, or whatever that fear might be that keep us from doing something.

 

Our childhood and how we grow up has an effect on our psyche, how we act around other people and how we view ourselves as a human being. We grow up and we begin making choices for what we think is right, what we feel is right, and what we know is right. If you feel ashamed of what you like, there is some things you'd have to think about...

 

Why do you feel like it is something to be ashamed about.

If it is society, do you think they have the right to say what is right and wrong in your decision of a show you find wonderful? Will you sacrifice your own happiness to let someone else decide what you should like?

 

All in all, we are who we choose to be, if you choose to be happy or sad, you ultimately wield your own fate, whatever path you take is for you and you alone to choose.

 

 

But this is just what I feel is right to think about such or any subject for discussion, I cant speak much from experience as a private person, I have fallen to a fate of keeping all my opinions and likes private from everyone and be bottled up and drift in the sea of drool that is the society today.

 

Most of the people may have seen(or probably heard me) in the servers, acting at times like I'm mental, that's just me being me, thankful of games and the internet being able to be myself and not care what others think...Tho It's fun to see the reaction :p

 

Hope it helped, or something, I read to many books and now sitting doing nothing, huzza for my job watching doors.

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When i first watched the show back when Season 1 wasn't even finished i kept it secret for a year because i was actually ashamed of myself. After that first year i just stopped caring, really.

 

Even though i'm no longer interested in the show i still look back on those times and think of the fun i had. At the end of the day society has some of the most pathetic taboos that have ever existed. It's your life and if you have fun watching a show then go ahead and watch it. The phrase "Life is to short to worry" is a true one at the end of the day.

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I can't say I have any feelings of shame regarding my enjoyment of the fandom, but if you caught me in real life and never brought it up, I'd probably not talk about it. I guess whenever I'm in a fandom I don't openly talk about it to just anyone unless it becomes a conversation subject. To me, enjoying a fandom doesn't require you to go around pronouncing your love for it, but that's just my take on the thing.

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If you don't want to be a brony, don't be a brony. You can still like the show without taking on the title. Just because I like German literature and language doesn't mean I'm German.

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